Friday, December 30, 2011

The Eighteenth Week - Merry Christmas!

I have to apologize for being a few days late this week. We just returned home last night after spending 7 days of Christmas bliss with family. Therefore, I will leave you with pictures of our fun times and bow out on the monologue this week. For next week, we will have quite the good news to share. Stay tuned!








Sweet Potato
You say potato, I saw potatahto! And say, have you been hiccuping down there lately? According to your developmental timeline, you are doing all kinds of baby things now, from sucking your thumb, to yawning, to hiccuping. There are times where I feel a consistent popping from you, and I'm guessing that it's you and your hiccups.

We are so excited to see you in less than a week, peanut! We have been so eager for your arrival that we have been putting your room together - we even have your crib set up already (your sister has already test-driven it, too!). Even though we know you have another 22 weeks of growing and maturing to do, we just can't help but picture our lives with you in it. So keep growing, moving, and shaking down there, peanut. We love you!

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Symptoms - 17 Weeks

I thought this might be a good opportunity to talk about the pregnancy symptoms I've been having lately, as I haven't touched on them in awhile.

Nausea. The nausea has definitely let up, but there are residual effects that still pop up every now and then. After a bought with the stomach flu last weekend, my nausea came crashing back for a week. Now, it is leveling off once again and I am able to eat without hesitation at just about any time of the day. And, I can (and will) eat just about anything.

Round Ligament Pain. I have also been having some significant round ligament pain, which I have been told is very common in subsequent pregnancies. Basically, it is just shooting pain around the abdomen (where the round ligament is located).

Headaches. When not pregnant, I may get a headache once a quarter, if that. Lately, I've been getting them everyday. I'm avoiding medicine, but not for any other reason than me being stubborn. Chai Lattes seem to cure them very well.

The Show Stopper. Finally, my familiar friend, constipation, is causing some problems once again. The iron supplement I have to take is only making the 8-car pile-up worse. However, I have found ways to combat it - beans and fruit!

Acne. I can't decide if I'm having issues or if I'm just used to my teenage skin. Looking back at Lidia's blog, I definitely do not have it as bad as I did with her. And if I do get it, it seems to clear up pretty quickly - and my concealer helps, too. :)

Mood. I'm pretty dry lately. Perhaps its just the grayness of the days, the pitch black at 5 o'clock, or my exhaustion, but my mood has hit the downward slope faster that an Olympic tobogganer. One day I'm up, the next day I'm down. One day nothing bothers me, and the next day I'm irritated at a person who doesn't say "thank you" after I held the door for her.

Boobs. They're big. And they're sore. The only one who isn't complaining is Jason. Definitely didn't have this with Lidia. Does it mean that it's a boy? Or maybe that's just what happens with baby #2. Hopefully this means my milk will come in quicker this time around!

Overall, when I'm not too tired to hold my head up, I am doing pretty well. The symptoms that I do have aren't so bad that they interfere with my daily routine. Some days are better than others - hell, some weeks are better than others. I'm not going to complain, though, because it's all a part of this beautiful miracle that is baby peanut.

Tearing Up
Baby peanut, we had an awesome doctor's appointment on Monday with you. While we didn't get another ultrasound, we did schedule the most important ultrasound of this pregnancy. And get this - it's in 2 weeks! In 2 weeks we will find out your gender and we will be able to start calling you by name (and by proper pronoun!). We are so excited and have decided to have your big sister be a part of this momentous day, too. Make sure you wave to us!

You have been quite the mover lately! This past week was the first week I could, without a doubt, feel you moving. It happens several times a day - mostly after I have eaten and I am sitting or laying down. Your movements bring the biggest smile to my face! It's all I need to feel to reassure me that you are doing perfectly down there.

The big things that are happening to you this week are stronger bones and fat build-up. This explains why I can now feel you move so well - you're putting some meat on those bones!

Finally, I'll close by saying that the doctor listened to your heartbeat this week at our appointment. As she listened to your heartbeat, I watched her facial expression closely and it was almost as if she was hearing the sweetest melody of her life. This reassured me that everything is as it should be with you. When our babies are well and happy, only then can daddy and I be happy, too.

We love you, peanut!

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

16 Weeks = 4 months = 6 months left!

What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. William Shakespeare


If you are like my mom, you may think that our name choices are “out there.” Yes, they are unique, but only a few are obscure. We honestly don’t know what names we will pick, and probably won’t know until closer to the 20-week mark. Names are important to us in this family. One of the reasons I kept my maiden name is because it identifies me as Italian. However, Jason is just as much Italian as I am, but it comes from his mother’s side. Our desire for our children’s first names to be Italian-rooted came from the fact that our children's last names won't be Italian.
One of the reasons why it is important for us (OK…me) to have our children's first names be Italian is because that is what we are – Italian. Everyone needs a culture to identify with and Italian is ours. My paternal grandpa, Antonio, came to America from Italy when he was 9. My paternal grandma, Natalia, was born in America, but both of her parents came from Italy. Jason’s maternal grandpa, Quirino, and maternal grandma, Genevieve, both are from Italy. This makes Jason and me both half Italian, which makes our children half Italian, too. Being Italian is a common thread that brings us closer together as a family. We love pasta, meatballs, garlic, bread, wine, and gathering with family. We have big noses, big appetites, and big personalities. Jason and I were raised with very similar morals and values because of the similarities of our backgrounds. And we hope to one day travel back to our roots in the Italian countryside, where grape vines are plentiful, land is great, and the fresh Mediterranean Sea can be smelled in the air.

In conclusion, while you may think that our chosen name is a foolish name, remember this quote:

Names, once they are in common use, quickly become mere sounds, their etymology being buried, like so many of the earth's marvels, beneath the dust of habit. -Salman Rushdie

And, my final thought: Once baby peanut makes his/her entrance into the world with his/her given name, we won’t even be able to imagine peanut with any other name.

Avacado
Mommy's going to make this a quick one, little peanut, because my bed is calling my name. Mommy just got diagnosed with anemia, which explains her extreme fatigue lately. Not to worry - you are getting all the iron that you need, which is why mommy is struggling so much! I have been ordered to take an additional iron supplement, which will hopefully put me out of anemia range.

I cannot believe you are 5 inches in length! You are getting so big - you're also growing those long eye lashes. You can now move your eyes, but your eyelids are still fused shut. And, most importantly, you can hear us now! Daddy and I will be sure to sing you a sweet lullaby tonight.

Goodnight, my love. Keep growing healthy and strong!

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

15 Weeks - Got Milk?

If a multinational company developed a product that was a nutritionally balanced and delicious food, a wonder drug that both prevented and treated disease, cost almost nothing to produce and could be delivered in quantities controlled by the consumers' needs, the very announcement of their find would send their shares rocketing to the top of the stock market. The scientists who developed the product would win prizes and the wealth and influence of everyone involved would increase dramatically. Women have been producing such a miraculous substance, breast milk, since the beginning of human existence. ~Gabrielle Palmer

Milk - it does a body good. Our family depends on milk. Jason and I alone go through 2.5 gallons of milk a week - yes a week. Lidia goes through a gallon in a week. We use milk for cereal, of course. We also enjoy drinking it by the glass-full. But this blog is not dedicated to that oh-so-familiar cow's milk that we, as a society, depend upon. It is dedicated to a much more sweet and pure milk - the milk of a human mother's breast.

I never thought I would be such a huge supporter and rallier for breastfeeding. I knew initially that I definitely wanted to do it. All of the most important women in my life had breastfed - my mom, my mother-in-law, my 2 sisters, my 3 sister-in-laws, and my best of friends. Tradition is what got me motivated to do it, but the many benefits to both me and my baby kept me hooked. Breastfeeding, by far, is the most selfless thing a mother can do. Breastfeeding is choice, and I wish every woman could at least make the choice to try. And I don't mean for just a day, because it doesn't come easy.
My milk didn't come in fully until Lidia was 3 days old. The first 3 days she was at my breasts constantly, trying to suck up every last bit of colostrum (the "gold" that your breasts produce right before the milk arrives). There is a definite art and skill to breastfeeding. I had to be positioned right, Lidia had to be positioned right, and her mouth had to be positioned just perfect on my nipples. It probably took a good month to sync our breastfeeding rhythm. And yes, even though I provided the milk, Jason was still a part of the process. For example, when Lidia needed fed every 2-3 hours, Jason would take over as soon as her feeding was done so I could get some rest. She fed from me, and then his job was to rock with her and get her back to sleep. So no, just because a woman breastfeeds doesn't mean the man can lay back and watch it all happen. He can take an active role, too (and Jason became responsible for feeding her breast milk bottles in my absence, so he wasn't left out of the feeding picture completely).

Breastfeeding is not for those who easily give up (which usually is me!). In the beginning, I would give myself a pep-talk nearly every day. It went something like this, "OK, one month. I'm going to give this one month. If I can do this for one month, that is at least better for Lidia than no breast milk at all." I fought through the pain of nipple soreness (and boy was that painful!) and eventually made it to that goal. The next goal went something like this: "OK, one month down. I can make it to 3 months. 3 months is more than I ever expected to be able to last. If I can give her 3 months, I will be satisfied." So on I trudged with my hooter hider and babe on breast. I went back to work and began pumping so Lidia could have her milk while away from me. Then, a funny thing happened. After 3 months, I no longer felt the need for any more pep-talks. I actually enjoyed the act of breastfeeding (I never did enjoy the act of pumping, though). I have such fond memories of laying in bed with Lidia during her nightly feed, watching the satisfaction in her eyes as my milk let down. And then slowly, her suckling would come to a stop and she would lay there peacefully, asleep. Yes, nothing could beat the satisfaction of those moments. It was those moments that brought us closer together. It was those moments that answered every question I had about why it had to be so darn hard. Great rewards don't come easy. I began to slowly ween her from the breast when she was a little past 1 year of age. By 15 months, she was completely weened. But I didn't force her - or myself. It just kind of happened naturally. We were both satisfied with the work that had been done.

A newborn baby has only three demands. They are warmth in the arms of its mother, food from her breasts, and security in the knowledge of her presence. Breastfeeding satisfies all three. ~Grantly Dick-Read

It is nearly impossible to give your opinion on breastfeeding without offending someone. But I won't apologize for what I believe. Breastfeeding is best. However, I have heard heart-breaking stories of women who wanted so badly to breastfeed, but it just couldn't happen. Women with PCOS or those who have had a breast reduction are those who my heart goes out to the most. I have known women with both of these conditions that knew their fate - but at least gave it a try. It may not have been able to last long, but they gave it their best shot because they knew that some was better than none. And in those cases, formula ended up being the right choice. Preemie babies who need extra supplementation are another exception. But providing the breast milk along with the supplementation is better than no breast milk at all. If you or someone you know is on the fence about breastfeeding, the best you can do is to be aware of all of the benefits. The benefits alone could be enough to sway someone.

Baby and Mama Benefits (from askdrsears.com. Who doesn't trust Dr. Sears?):

Breastfeeding Benefits for Baby from Top to Bottom

Brain. Higher IQ in breastfed children. Cholesterol and other types of fat in human milk support the growth of nerve tissue. 
Eyes. Visual acuity is higher in babies fed human milk. 
Ears. Breastfed babies get fewer ear infections. 
Mouth. Less need for orthodontics in children breastfed more than a year. Improved muscle development of face from suckling at the breast. Subtle changes in the taste of human milk prepare babies to accept a variety of solid foods. 
Throat. Children who are breastfed are less likely to require tonsillectomies. 
Respiratory system. Evidence shows that breastfed babies have fewer and less severe upper respiratory infections, less wheezing, less pneumonia and less influenza. 
Heart and circulatory system. Evidence suggests that breastfed children may have lower cholesterol as adults. Heart rates are lower in breastfed infants. 
Digestive system. Less diarrhea, fewer gastrointestinal infections in babies who are breastfeeding. Six months or more of exclusive breastfeeding reduces risk of food allergies. Also, less risk of Crohn's disease and ulcerative colitis in adulthood. 
Immune system. Breastfed babies respond better to vaccinations. Human milk helps to mature baby's own immune system. Breastfeeding decreases the risk of childhood cancer. 
Endocrine system. Reduced risk of getting diabetes. 
Kidneys. With less salt and less protein, human milk is easier on a baby's kidneys. 
Appendix. Children with acute appendicitis are less likely to have been breastfed. 
Urinary tract. Fewer infections in breastfed infants. 
Joints and muscles. Juvenile rheumatoid arthritis is less common in children who were breastfed. 
Skin. Less allergic eczema in breastfed infants. 
Growth. Breastfed babies are leaner at one year of age and less likely to be obese later in life. 
Bowels. Less constipation. Stools of breastfed babies have a less-offensive odor.

For the Mama:
Reduces the risk of breast cancer. Women who breastfeed reduce their risk of developing breast cancer by as much as 25 percent. The reduction in cancer risk comes in proportion to the cumulative lifetime duration of breastfeeding. That is, the more months or years a mother breastfeeds, the lower her risk of breast cancer.
Reduces the risk of uterine and ovarian cancer. One of the reasons for the cancer-fighting effects of breastfeeding is that estrogen levels are lower during lactation. It is thought that the less estrogen available to stimulate the lining of the uterus and perhaps breast tissue also, the less the risk of these tissues becoming cancerous.
Lessens osteoporosis. Non-breastfeeding women have a four times greater chance of developing osteoporosis than breastfeeding women and are more likely to suffer from hip fractures in the post-menopausal years.
Benefits child spacing. Since breastfeeding delays ovulation, the longer a mother breastfeeds the more she is able to practice natural childspacing, if she desires. How long a woman remains infertile depends on her baby's nursing pattern and her own individual baby.
Promotes emotional health. Not only is breastfeeding good for mother's body, it's good for her mind. Studies show that breastfeeding mothers show less postpartum anxiety and depression than do formula-feeding mothers.
Promotes postpartum weight loss. Breastfeeding mothers showed significantly larger reductions in hip circumference and more fat loss by one month postpartum when compared with formula-feeding moms. Breastfeeding mothers tend to have an earlier return to their pre-pregnant weight.
Costs less to breastfeed. It costs around $1,200 a year to formula-feed your baby. Even taking into consideration the slight increase in food costs to a breastfeeding mother, the American Academy of Pediatrics estimates that a breastfeeding mother will save around $400 during the first year of breastfeeding.
The American Academy of Pediatrics, the Centers for Disease Control, and any pediatrician or OB-GYN will affirm these statements as well. So, at this point, I will ever-so-graciously step down from my soap box. But I beg you, if you have a choice - if you are blessed and lucky enough to have a choice - choose breast milk. Breast milk is better than any udder milk!

Orange You Special


Hey there peanut! Have I felt you moving lately? I'd like to think that since I'm becoming experienced at this whole pregnancy thing, that I would know the difference between baby movements and gas. But, I guess I don't! Hopefully my wishes will become reality soon.

What's in a name? So, you will see that mommy and daddy have released your possible names to the left of this post. Yes, we are continuing with the Italian theme. If you are a boy, your middle name will be Matthew, like your father's. If you are a girl, your middle name will be Marie, like your mama's sister, Kristen, and best friend, Ashley. We're anxious to see what the readers' think your name should be!

You've been practicing a lot this week - you're actually breathing in amniotic fluid to help build your lungs up. You're also sucking, making facial expressions, and kicking those arms and legs like crazy.
We are so excited to get updates on you at our next doctor's appointment, which is in 12 short days.

Keep growing healthy, peanut, and we will keep praying for you! We love you!